missunderstandings and bullieing as an issue
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What is up, YouTube? Two things. Part of having autism, I guess. I've noticed I have trouble making proper eye contact. Sometimes I pretty much just stare at the ground and keep to myself. It's just how I do. So I keep holding something in my hand and and someone starts talking about me. stare at the ground and keep to myself. It's just how I do. So I keep holding something in my hand and someone starts talking to me. I'm looking down at the thing. Oh, oh, hey, how you doing? You know. And quite often, like, it's misinterpreted. The same could be said for having a lazy eye like I'm trying to focus on the person in front of me and it was the person next to me my eyes hurts drifting misinterpreted is something else. By gaze or a stare or whatever you want to call it. Misunderstandings make life so much fun let me tell you. Nah, they really don't. Misunderstanding suck and speaking of misunderstandings a couple days ago someone hit me up on Facebook live and they're just like oh, did you hear the Gothic D? is selling wands and ever since then, you know, it's been kind of blah. My first initial reaction was, yeah, fucking right. It's probably some troll pretending to be hurt just to fuck with me and cause more drama. And chances on more than let me write on this issue. Because when the whole Gothic D battle first started, these trolls are laughing hysterically like, holy shit. We got these two them will start drama with a bunch of other YouTubeers and then these YouTubeers think it's my fault because they're my trolls and I'm like, oh how the fuck is that fair? I'm not in control of what my trolls do. I'm only in control of in bed awake and thinking about a comment that I received on one of my live videos not too long ago. And the person on the comment on the comment on the person on the comment said this pathetic piece of shit needs to leave people alone and I'm looking at that comment like what so when people jump to conclusions or assume shit and get angry because of a misunderstanding, it creates more problems than it's worth. Case in point. If people assume that… You know, my trolls are attacking other people because of me not dude I think about it all I did was give Gothic D a shout out on YouTube because she gave me a shout out right and then these trolls are trying to hook us up and I had no intention of trying to hook up with her because one I assume she already had a boyfriend and two she's halfway around the fucking world dude come on and I didn't even know this chick and as soon as I assume she had a boyfriend. Oh look at that, I was right. Huh? First rule about dating always is same she's taken, unless she knows otherwise. I shouldn't have to apologize for my trolls but I'm not going to because it's not my fault they're day kids. But Tuesday, it begins another batch. I don't quite have the sandpaper to finish a full batch of wands, so I'm definitely going to need to get some more of that on Tuesday. And then of course people who are on the outside who don't even know it's a troll fucking with me and this other person, you know, and they happen to be a fan of mine. Out of curiosity, they'll be like, oh, did you know that Gothic De is selling wands? And I'm like, Oh, did you know it's a troll pertaining to be Gothic De to fuck with me? You know what I'm saying? People are like, oh, well, you're making a living, selling wands. I'm jealous of that, so. Instead of figuring out their own way're making a living selling wands. I'm jealous of that. So Instead of figuring out their own way to make a living or get their hustle on The'll attack somebody like me for trying for being myself It's pathetic. Like, as like I said, I have what I'm making in the video, my lazy eye, isn't that noticeable, but when I'm not making a video, it's doing this number, or this number, you know what I'm saying? Oh. Here's the beginning back up in my hair in a couple hours because my hair is starting to get a little greasy. I like to let the grease build up in my hair just a little bit and I'll massage my scalp just like this. It stimulates hair growth. Now my hair does look like this when it starts to get a little bit greasy, but not too greasy. Besides the point. Yeah, it's better to get the facts than it is to assume. Yeah. And if you go off making brass assumptions, and then your assumptions are incorrect. And then your assumptions are incorrect, and you overreact to your assumption, it's going to make you look like a huge ass. Case in point, if someone pretends to be someone else on social media, and they harass you and bully you and you overreact to that and the person who they're pretending to be sees the video and they're just like I've never met this person in my life who the fuck is this asshole and then they start talking shit about you and that's all it takes. That's all it takes. It's for one troll to pretend to be someone else on YouTube or social media and then talk a bunch of shit and you wiled up and then you think this is one person doing it. When really it's someone else pertaining to be someone else. And the sad part is, you know, the lengths in which people will go to, to legitimately harass people. It's, it's pretty sad. I might get a lot of crap on social media for just being me. Now it doesn't help things that when they try to pin me against female YouTubeers you know what I'm saying it just it doesn't help you know what I'm saying it just it doesn't help you know what I'm saying not trying to sound sexist or nothing but you know it's not going to help my image if I over- You know what I'm saying? Not trying to sound sexist or nothing, but you know, it's not going to help my to such lengths to create drama and controversy. I'm only in charge of what I do. I believe me if I could change it I would. But… But… It's like I said. I'm But it's very apparent when I feel out of place in a situation and quite often I'll try to leave the situation without being rude. You know, that's just in life in general, not pertaining to anything particular, but… When a lot of people see how badly I get bullied on social media, it makes them go, eww, it makes them sit there and think, I don't want to start a social media channel, just because they see the level of harassment that I get. And they're like, yeah dude. But here's the thing if it don't let bullying on social media discourage you from having a Facebook or making a YouTube channel. I'm not going to guarantee that you'll get super famous overnight, but I am going to guarantee you'll get some hate at first. Get to about a thousand subscribers, then you'll start getting hate. And here's the funny part of it. I got all these people trying to ruin my life because they're jealous of me and I don't let it affect me. I still live my life. You know what I was saying? All these haters were plotting another way to harass me in some way, shape, or form. I enjoyed my Saturday. Place of Grand Theft Auto had a class of wine, made a couple videos. It was all around good Saturday, you know. But then I read the comment on one of my live videos and I thought, now I'm not going to respond to it. But then… Excuse me. But then while I hang awake in bed, I get to thinking about it and I'm like, well, this could be why a lot of people don't like me is because they're assuming that I'm attacking some poor innocent you-tuber, not knowing that a bunch of trolls on her side and a bunch of trolls on my side are getting together and saying, how can we get these two people to fight? So we can create drama and you know what I'm saying for a… and saying, how can we get these two people to fight? So we can create drama, you know what I'm saying? And they do it because they're bored. They do it because they are bored. Duh. And people ask, well, do you use any Gothic makeup or foundation? I'm like, nope. Nope. The only sort of makeup I'll wear is black lipstick and eyeliner, and that's it. That's all I need. It's a rock my goth look and eyelineriner and that's it. That's all I need. To rock my goth look. I don't go black lipstick very often, but more than anything, I'll just throw in some eyeliners and black nail polish and, you know what I'm saying? You can't, you can't let people get to you man. Easier said than done. You know. the haters no longer matter. That's the thing about social media online bullying. Why are you going to let someone else's opinion get to you? They're a complete anonymous stranger for all you know they could be halfway around the world sitting in their mom's basement talking mad shit because they're jealous. something you have? You know what I'm saying? So don't let the assels get see you. It's just not worth it. Sure you can get pissed off and angry and fire back with some. Oh yeah, well fuck you sort of nonsense. But, you know, you gotta pick your battles man because sometimes what ends up happening is you make a video responding to the hates and then they make a video responding and then you make a video and then they make a video and then they make a video and then they make a video and it just never stops and then eventually you'd be asking yourself wait what was the whole fight about again I forgot all these response videos it's it's fucking childish and stupid dude. Like, my first instinct told me it wasn't… Oh, excuse me. My first instinct told me it really wasn't Gothic D. making wands. That was my first instinct told me it really wasn't Gothic D making ones. That was my first instinct. I wasn't stupid dude. I might have been born yesterday, but I wasn't born last night. Something told me that literally… There's more to this behind this scene than I'm noticing. You know what I'm saying? There's more to this behind the scene than I'm noticing. You know what I'm saying? There's more to this scenario that I'm witnessing at the moment. And before you go, making brass assumptions about somebody. Do a little bit of research man. Like if you see someone attacking you on your channel and you're just like, well, what the fuck did I do deserve this? And you're just like, well, what the fuck did I do to deserve this? That's when you're just like, okay, wait a second. Figure out how the whole thing started. And then once you figure out, okay, there's someone either impersonating you or the person doesn't know you, you know. And bullying unfortunately has become a serious problem in our society. Not just on social media, but in schools and, you know, if we could eradicate bullying from schools completely as it was just on social media, the world would not be perfect, why are kids bullying each other? They're all trying to go to school, get a good education, and fit in, make friends, hang out on the weekends. Why? And if you want kids to stop bullying you need to help them relate to each other instead of… because sitting there saying, oh we need to make kids understand that words hurt people. We've been telling them this shit for ages. Sincerely, We've been telling kids the same shit for generations. Your words have an impact on people. Use nice words. words have an impact on people, you should use nice words. And I don't think the issue is making kids understand that words hurt people because they do. Kids are smart enough to know that words have an impact and that words can be destructive and hurtful. Now what you need to do is you need to make kids relate to each other even if they don't have the exact same life. You know what I'm saying? That's the biggest thing of it. YouTube and Facebook. That is the biggest thing of it. And you can disagree with me all you want to, but that's just the way I see it. solution of what if we made bullying illegal in schools what if we turned it into a federal offense I agree slash disagree with that I do agree with it because it would make a huge difference but I disagree with it because cops have real police work to be doing. You know what I'm saying? They're going to hate it if they're getting called to schools all around the nation because of a he said, she said moment. So I agree with it because it would stop bullying to a degree, but I disagree with it because you know cops should be busy catching real criminals not dealing with a bunch of tattle tails and he said she said blah blah blah because unless it altercation into violence and it's just a bunch of well you're this yeah well you're shorts for that or your shirt looks like this yeah well your shirt sucks yeah well your band sucks you know it's just You know, this shit concerns me. You too, it does. Because I was… You know, this shit concerns me. You too, it does. Because I was bullied in school. You know, this shit concerns me. You too, it does. Because I was bullied in school. And nine times out of 10, when I got bullied in school, the issue never got resolved. The teachers never, I had a couple teachers that were cool about stopping it. You know what I'm saying? I had a couple teachers growing up that were very cool about stopping the issue. But the majority of the teachers I went through in my schooling days, they didn't give a shit about bullying, at least not for me anyways. But when I had a kid pestering me in school, and I started bullying him back to get him to leave me the fuck alone, they're like, Mr. Saunders, you can't do that. I'm like, excuse me? Okay, so I see how this works. It's okay when people bully me, but as soon as I do it to somebody else, you know, even if it's for the right reason, is there a right reason to bully somebody? Oh, man. Yeah. People think I'm a bad influence on kids just because I drink and smoke and I cuss. Look past it. Oh this guy smokes tobacco and he cuss is like a sailor and he drinks alcohol. He's a bad influence on kids. Right. And here I am encouraging kids to be nicer to one another. I mean it's a new school year you know what I'm saying? My best advice to those of you who have a hard time making friends in school is to……well try to find people who share have similar interests, like say if you're an outcast, then you hang out with other outcasts, that's just how it goes. If you're socially awkward or considered unpopular, then you'd hang out with those or pretty much in the same predicament you're in? And do you think your potential job and the future is going to give a shit how many nerds you stuffed into a trash can? How many autistic kids you beat up? No. They're going to look at you like this guy's a fucking asshole. And here's the thing of it. What's gonna qualify you for that job when you get out of high school? Is graduating? Now yes, the majority of what the school system is nothing but bullshit, but it is a requirement. It looks better on paper, especially if you walk into your potential job and be like, hey, you know. And you could drop out of school because bullying is that bad. But to a potential employer, they'll assume it's for other reasons. Why? Because you're a drug-y, because you're lazy. You know what I'm saying? And that's kind of an unfair assumption but that's life. People see you drop out of school. They usually assume it's for one of those reasons not because the school districts broke not because what's the point? You get bullied all the time, you know? Even if you are getting bullied in school Don't drop out. Don't commit suicide. Don't pull my shootings Because once you get out of high school, you have your whole life ahead that it's out of hand on social media, so they start feeling like that. then they're not going to do too much to address it in schools Because they might think, okay, it's gotten out of hand on social media, there's no way we're going to be able to fix it. Just because bullying has gotten out of hand on one particular place or another or two. A case in point, if you get rejected by women all the time and you constantly see yourself as the one that will never find anybody, eventually it starts becoming your reality. So it's all about how you perceive life and if you perceive life in any situation Then that's just how it's going to be perceived and that's just how it's going to happen So instead of, if you get rejected by women, instead of seeing it as an issue, and see it as a chance to laugh at them because if they're lost, not yours, you know what I'm saying, maybe rethink your strategy a bit. No bullying as an issue can be stopped but it's a group effort. I'm just saying.